A Nigerian woman, identified as Ngozi, has stirred controversy with a bold suggestion to women facing challenges with childbearing in their marriages. Taking to her Facebook page, Ngozi advised women who may face fertility issues, whether on their part or their husband’s, to consider seeking alternatives, including allowing another man to impregnate them if their husbands are unable to father children.
Ngozi shared her opinion by addressing situations where women have struggled for years without having a child. In one post, she stated that if after ten years of marriage, it is medically confirmed that she is the cause of infertility, she would have no qualms about finding a woman for her husband or supporting him in marrying another wife. She emphasized that in such a case, she would adopt a child of her own while ensuring that her husband remains satisfied with the new arrangement.
However, she was more candid when the issue of infertility came from her husband. In this case, Ngozi proposed that she would suggest having a child with another man as a solution. “If after 10 years of marriage, the issue is from my husband, I will suggest getting pregnant by another man. Everyone will go their way,” she wrote.
Ngozi further expressed that she viewed the notion of adoption as a last resort. She argued that if she were sure she could conceive and carry a child to term, she would not adopt simply because her spouse could not biologically father a child. She firmly believed it would be an undue sacrifice to adopt another person’s child when she was physically capable of having her own. This opinion was voiced strongly, especially after she mentioned the failed outcomes of some fertility treatments like IVF.
In her post, she also acknowledged that surrogacy would require both an active egg and sperm, reiterating that if she truly loved her husband, she would want to help him achieve fatherhood, even if it meant seeking help from another man. “If you really love someone, you would want them to have what you cannot give them, even if it’s from another woman or man,” she concluded.
Ngozi, who goes by the handle “SPONTEXDEBULLDOZER,” made it clear that she stood firmly behind her opinion, proudly stating, “I chest this opinion with my full bressssssssss makachi!!!”
Her comments have sparked a wide range of reactions online, with many questioning the ethical implications and cultural considerations of such an approach to solving infertility issues in marriage. While some have supported her views as practical, others have condemned it as morally questionable, highlighting the complexities of relationships and parenthood in Nigerian society.
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