Kafayat Oyewo-Oyelere
In Islam, the phase of being single is not merely a transitional period, it is a time filled with potential for growth, reflection, and establishing a firm foundation rooted in faith.
Rather than viewing singleness as a void, or an opportunity for negative exploration, Islam encourages individuals to use this time to strengthen their relationship with Allah, develop personal discipline, and embody Islamic values that prepare them for the responsibilities of marriage and family life.
- Tawheed (Belief in the Oneness of Allah)
The most fundamental Islamic value is the belief in the Oneness of Allah (Tawheed). For a single Muslim, nurturing a strong bond with Allah forms the spiritual foundation of life. This connection brings purpose, peace, and guidance during moments of loneliness or uncertainty.
” Indeed, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest .”
(Surah Ar-Ra’d, 13:28
Building a life centered around Allah helps individuals make decisions rooted in sincerity and faith, including in relationships.
- Sabr (Patience)
Singleness often requires patience, especially in a society that encourages zina or pressures individuals to couple quickly. Islam highly recommend patience, especially when faced with adversities.
” And be patient. Surely, Allah is with those who are patient.”
(Surah Al-Anfal, 8:46)
A patient individual waits for what is right, not what is fast. This patience strengthens character and promotes clarity when seeking a future spouse.
- Taqwa (God-Consciousness)
Taqwa is a guiding light that helps one stay within the boundaries set by Allah. It is especially important for singles navigating emotional and social relationships.
Avoid embezzling, stealing, extorting, blackmailing, robbing and “yahoo”
“And whoever fears Allah He will make for him a way out. And provide for him from where he does not expect.”
(Surah At-Talaq, 65:2-3)
Living with taqwa ensures that singles avoid harmful behaviors and keep their intentions pure, trusting Allah’s plan for their future.
- Ihsan (Excellence in Character)
Developing good character is an essential part of preparing for any future role, especially as a spouse and parent. Singleness allows time to cultivate habits of honesty, kindness, humility, and emotional control.
“Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you.”
(Surah Al-Hujurat, 49:13)
These qualities help build a strong personal foundation, ensuring future relationships are based on mutual respect and compassion.
- Self-Development and Purpose
Islam encourages learning, skill-building, and contribution to society. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) praised those who were productive and beneficial to others.
“The best of people are those that bring most benefit to the rest of mankind.”
(Hadith)
For singles, this is a time to pursue education, community work, and personal development, which are valuable assets in both this life and the hereafter.
- Dua and Trust in Allah’s Plan
Supplication (dua) is a powerful tool for the believer. While it is important to make dua for a righteous spouse, it is equally essential to trust Allah’s timing and wisdom.
” And your Lord Says “call on Me, I will answer you”
(Surah Ghafir, 40: 60)
” Perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.”
(Surah Al-Baqarah, 2)
May Allah ease your affairs.
