Bismillāh-ir-Rahmān-ir-Rahīm.
Introduction
Parenting is one of the greatest trusts (amanah) that Allah has placed in our hands. In Islam, parenting is not merely about raising children, but about cultivating future leaders, righteous servants of Allah, and responsible members of society.
As parents, we are not just caregivers, we are moral compasses, emotional anchors, and spiritual guides. So today, let us explore how Islam guides us to parent with purpose, and how we can practically instill lasting values in our children, no matter their age.
- The Foundation: Parenting as a Sacred Duty
Allah says in the Qur’an:
“O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire…” (Qur’an 66:6)
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Each of you is a shepherd, and each of you is responsible for his flock.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
Parenting in Islam starts with intentions and continues with accountability to Allah.
- Key Islamic Principles of Parenting
a. Tarbiyah (Holistic Upbringing):
Nurturing children physically, intellectually, spiritually, and emotionally.
b. Shurah (Consultation):
Involve children in decision-making. Teach by discussing, not dictating.
c. Adl (Justice):
Treat children fairly and equally, without bias or favoritism.
d. Rahmah (Mercy):
Even the Prophet ﷺ kissed his grandchildren in public and showed affection. Kindness builds connection.
- Instilling Values in Children a. Tawheed (Oneness of Allah)
From a young age, instill the love of Allah.
Talk about His mercy, names, and blessings.
Let the home echo with adhkar and Qur’an recitation.
b. Salah (Prayer and Spiritual Routine)
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Instruct your children to pray when they are seven…” (Abu Dawud)
Pray together as a family.
Let children see you enjoying ibadah.
c. Akhlaq (Good Character)
Teach honesty, humility, gratitude, patience, and generosity.
The Prophet ﷺ was sent “to perfect good manners.” (Hadith)
d. Learning Through Storytelling
Share stories of the Prophets, Sahabah, and righteous people.
Use real-life scenarios to pass moral lessons in a relatable way.
- Practical Strategies for Today’s Parents
i Be an Example:
Children imitate what they see. Model the values you preach.
ii Create Routines:
Morning du’as, evening Qur’an, family halaqahs, even once a week.
iii Communicate Openly:
Ask questions. Listen more than you speak. Don’t shut down their curiosity.
iv Screen Their Influences:
What they watch, who they befriend, and what they read all shape their world.
v Make Du’a Constantly:
Prophet Ibrahim’s du’a for his children still inspires us today.
“My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and [many] from my descendants.” (Qur’an 14:40)
- For Married & Singles Alike
Even if you are not yet a parent, start building your mindset.
Choose a spouse who shares Islamic values.
Understand your future parenting responsibilities.
Surround yourself with role models and mentors.
Conclusion
Parenting is not about perfection. It’s about presence, patience, and prayer.
Raise children who are connected to their Creator, confident in their identity, and committed to making the world better through the lens of Islam.
May Allah guide us all to be righteous parents and grant us children who will be the coolness of our eyes. Ameen.